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Online Groups for Love Addicts
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Online-Telephone Weekly Love Addiction Recovery Support Groups
What are Weekly Love Addiction Telephone Groups?
The purpose of groups is for all participants to learn, grow, and recover from addictive loving?with a special emphasis on the vital aspects of recovery. Jim Hall, Love Addiction Expert (founder of www.loveaddictionhelp.com) leads and facilitates each group- teaching, giving feedback, and guiding all to a healthy path of healing and recovery. As a group, all share the same painful experiences of love addiction. We come together to share our experiences and discuss important topics of recovering. We focus on the work of overcoming the core issues of which all love addicts share- critical for long lasting recovery (you can learn about these by downloading and reading in Jim Hall's book, (The Love Addict in Love Addiction). These group elements are essential to successful and long lasting recovery.
Who attends Weekly Love Addiction Telephone Groups?
These groups are specifically for love addicts who have a desire to recover.
Are these recovery groups the same as a 12-step groups?
No. 12-step groups are never run or facilitated by a professional expert/counselor; and they only follow the guidelines for the 12 steps. there are no other online-telephone recovery groups like this one specifically for love addicts who want to recover- and one in which it is lead and taught by a leading Love Addiction Expert. The focus in love addiction groups is not on the 12-steps of recovery (although it may be a part of discussion). These groups focus on the vital aspects of love addiction recovery. Moreover, as a group we focus on the work of overcoming the core issues which are critical for love addict's long lasting recovery (you can learn about these by downloading and reading in Jim Halls book, The Love Addict in Love Addiction.
How can these recovery groups help me in my love addiction?
In the midst of recovering, this group will help you feel connected. You will realize a completely new healthy perspective of the experience of your love addiction. You will learn new relational skills. You will learn new tools to help you grow and heal. You will get ongoing feedback, answers, advice, and support from me. You will foster self-belief and a sense of value and purpose, enabling unlimited growth. In-group we are reminded that - we are NOT alone and NOT crazy. Supportive connections and mentoring opportunities among your peers, as well as access to communicate directly with me provide the ultimate recovery experience. We are all indelibly connected, and when our hopes and dreams come together, they are magnified!
What do we do in groups?
As a group, we have a mix of sharing our experiences in our love addiction; discussion on various topics, learn, listen, and together, participants discover a new perspective in their experience. Group participants get from the leader of groups, (Jim Hall- LA Expert), ongoing feedback, support, guidance, and education about love, addiction, relationships, recovering and much more. You can ask Jim questions, get advice, and learn the keys to recovering.
What do I talk about in groups?
The most important thing for these recovery groups is simply, ?show-up'. Sharing and listening are important. You can talk about what brought you to the group in the first place. Just listening to others experience can be healing. Share your experience with love addiction, relationships, and desire to recover. Tell the group members what is bothering you, your fears, concerns, etc. When you have questions and need advice, ask Jim, and ask for support from other members; this is why we are here. Really, do not worry about what you say, just be present and trust the process as it will help you in amazing ways.
What is the 'Boundaries: Nuts & Bolts Group'?
What is the 'Surviving Withdrawal' Group?
How much do I have to share or disclose about myself in groups?
There is no rule to this. In groups, we support each other and practice unconditional acceptance. The extent to which you share or disclose feelings, experiences, and the issues which you disclose, must always be your choice. Some people are more keen and able than others to disclose. Most people find that when they feel safe enough to share what is troubling them. You should share and disclose at a pace and depth that you find personally comfortable, that is enough.
What happens if I miss a group?
Try to make sure you attend all your weekly groups. If you miss a group you can not replace that week for other weeks.
How many participants can be in a group?
No more than 10 participants are in one group. It's important to register for the group you want. Once a particular group fills up, you won't be able to register for the group until spaces become available.
Can international attendees participate?
Anyone who has internet service and can dial a US telephone number can register and will be able to join any group.
How old do you have to be to join a group?
You must at least be 18 years of age.
Are there Women or Men Only groups?
No. Although it can be more comfortable to be in a group with your speciifc gender only, recovery is about learning to connect, learnng relational skills, and discovering that your opposite sex are'nt all bad. "Men are all #@*!?", "Women are all #@*!"... are very distorted ways of thinking and recovery is partly learning to change our istorted thoughts and beliefs.
Are there group guidelines/rules participants must follow?
Yes, you will be emailed these after registering.
How long does a group last?
Each weekly group is 1.5 hours/90 minutes in length.
How long will weekly recovery groups last?
Because I know how beneficial these groups will be for those who join, I plan to make this a permanent and ongoing service. My passion and commitment to this website, to helping love addicts anywhere and everywhere is here to stay. There are so many of us out there that need this service.
I may add new topic groups and available times down the road.
Are there any recommended readings?
How do I get the most out of a love addiction recovery groups?
- Be yourself. Start from where you are, not where you think others want you to be. This might mean that you express sadness, anger or hostility, appear shy or withdrawn, or are defensive. The working through process starts with whatever you feel free to disclose.
- Think about what you would like to get out of the group, not only from the overall experience, but also from each meeting/session. Being flexible about your desires is important. You may find that your desires change throughout the group process. As your growth and self-awareness increases and you learn and listen to others, you may discover issues that might be more important than your original ones.
- Recognize and respect your pace for getting involved in the group. Some members are immediately ready to disclose their thoughts and feelings; others feel more comfortable just listening first for a while and need more time to gain feelings of trust and security. If you are having a difficult time knowing how to discuss your problems with the group, ask the group leader and peers to help you.
- Don't be afraid to take time for yourself. You have the right to take group time to talk about yourself. Some group members hesitate to take time because they feel others need the time or they question the importance of what they have to say. By recognizing what your reluctance means, you begin the growth process.
- Don't hesitate to ask questions or for feedback from the group leader (Jim Hall- Love Addiction Expert). I do these groups because I want you to overcome the challenges you face- and I want you to succeed in recovery.
- Try to be aware, recognize, and express thoughts and feelings. The recognition, acceptance, and expression of previously avoided thoughts and feelings pave the way for personal growth and change. If you have difficulty expressing your thoughts and feelings, ask the group to help you with this.
- Be aware of censoring thoughts and feelings. We are often taught to censor what we communicate to others. In this group process, you are free to explore your thoughts and feelings without censorship.
- Be an active group member. Being active means participating in discussions, expressing your reactions to what another person is saying, sharing your concerns, listening to others, and asking for clarification. If you don't understand something, don't hesitate to say so- chances are someone else doesn't understand it as well. You may not feel like being active each session, and that is ok. It's important to respect your needs for periods of reflection.
- Offer and receive feedback. The best way to get feedback is to request it from the group leader or a specific peer whose impression means the most to you. You have the right to ask for either positive comments or constructive criticism (or both), depending on what you are ready to hear. In giving feedback, try to be specific and concrete. Be open to receiving feedback from others as well, this is important as part of learning healthy relational skills as well as hearing something different we may not of otherwise thought of.
- Become aware of distancing behaviors. All of us have ways of behaving that prevent others from knowing and getting close to us. This can be remaining silent and uninvolved, telling long and involved stories, responding to others with intellectual statements, asking content questions, joking, and talking only about external events. Distancing behaviors have had a purpose in the past. Now the question is whether the behavior is preventing you from getting what you want?closer relationships with others.
- Be patient with yourself. Growth and recovery takes time, effort, and patience. It doesn't happen overnight. Changing entrenched patterns, behaviors, and negative self-feelings is difficult. Patience and self-acceptance set the foundation for growth.
- Reflection outside the group. In order to get the most from the group experience, spend time thinking about yourself, reflecting on what you are learning, and paying attention to your reactions and feelings.
- Give a group time to develop. It takes a number of sessions before members of a group begin to have sufficient trust and security to be open and honest and be fully engaged. Just a few sessions won't be very helpful. Make at least the minimum requirement of four groups/one month. However, I strongly encourage you to make commitment to attend at least 2-3 months (8-12 sessions) before you decide if group is for you. If you are having concerns about whether or not to stay in a group, call or email me, your group leader.
How much do weekly groups cost?
$99.00 per every four weeks (or four weekly group sessions)... that comes to less than $25.00 for each weekly group session! You are billed $99.00 at a time for every four weekly sessions.
What if I can't commit to a group longer than the first four weekly-required sessions for $99.00?
If after your first four group sessions, you want to stop attending groups; or discontinue your group-
you may cancel so you will not be charged for the next block of four weekly groups. So you only pay 99.00 for that first four groups.
How do I discontinue/opt-out of a group after my first four weekly groups so I am not charged for the next four-week block of groups on my account?
To discontinue or opt-out of a group, simply email me (Jim Hall) at firstname.lastname@example.org
with your name, day and time of group you were attending, and your request to discontinue/opt-out.
For example, if you decide to register for a group, and if after 4 weeks you decide you cannot attend more groups, you simply email me, Jim Hall at recovery@ love addiction help.com to let me know. If you decided to continue for another month, but then wanted to stop attending the 3rd month (or 3rd block of four weekly groups), you need to email me after that 2nd month (within 5 days of your last group) - and so on. * You must cancel within 5 days after any consecutive 4 sessions.
Why is it necessary to require a minimum or multiple sessions?
First, imagine how it would be if you are a part of group- and there were multiple participants of this group joined for one session here and there; coming in once and never returning, etc. - it does not positively contribute to the group process when this occurs. As part of our recovery groups, we also want participants who, at minimal, are somewhat committed. Maybe they are unsure, ambiguous, or confused about what direction they want to go in recovery or whether it is even possible (this is normal), but it's important we come together with at least a small amount of willingness initially. With willingness and persistence we grow, our commitment grows, and likely, with full a commitment to ourselves, we realize recovery can and does happen.
What if after four weekly sessions I want to discontinue my weekly group, what do I do?
After your first four weekly sessions you have the option to opt-out/discontinue the group and cancel the billing cycle (a billing cycle is every four weeks/or 4 sessions) * to cancel, you must do so within the first 5 days after each 30 day billing cycle. If you don't, you will be billed for the next four weekly sessions, and the next four after that and so on.
How do I opt-out/discontinue a group?
Email Jim Hall, Love Addiction Expert, and founder of this website - at email@example.com to let him know you want to opt-out/discontinue your weekly recovery group. When you email Jim, let him know the group you've been attending (day/time). You can only opt-out/discontinue a group after every four weekly session.
Is there a billing contract I have to abide?
There is no contract or minimum amount of groups you have to attend (accept the first 4 weeks). You understand when you register for a group, you sign up on a recurring basis to be billed $99.00 for every four weekly sessions (month to month billing cycle). If you decide to continue for the next four weekly sessions and not opt-out/discontinue a group, you are billed $99.00 for the next four weekly sessions (and thereafter if you continue).
Are there a minimum number of weeks I have to register for?
The minimum requirement when registering is the first four weekly sessions.
How many weeks are required to register and sign up for a group?
When you register a group, it's necessary for you to commit to your first four sessions (you are only billed 99.00 the when you register, and for subsequent blocks of four weekly sessions thereafter until you opt-out/discontinue.
What if I want to stay in a group for two months, and then opt-out/discontinue?
Once registered, you may continue the group as long as you like. When you want to opt-out of a group, you must do so within 5 days after any four-week block of sessions.
What type of phones can I use to call into my conference calls?
All participants join/ dial into their group meeting call using an office, home, mobile phone or via Skype.
What is Screen-Viewing/Sharing?
Screen Sharing is the online group-meeting feature used for demonstrations, presenting, teaching, or showing important information for group participants. Jim Hall will often have topics or areas of discussion and teaching for groups . With anygroup you register for, Screen Sharing is available to all participants. Along with your group dial-in number and access code (explained above), you will receive a link to get access Screen Sharing on your computer.
How does it work?
It works just like a regular conference call except that the host can now view in real time their live conference call on their PC or laptop. The conference call can be managed using regular touch tone as well as with the host web control module. Screen Sharing is a the online feature used during a group; for group learning and more.
Once you registered for a group, you will be emailed the meeting link as well as group dial in number and access code.
How do participants join a meeting for screen viewing?
Meeting participants can join a meeting by clicking on the link received after registration.
What information do I need to provide to join a meeting?
Participants need to provide the group link, email address, and their name to join a meeting.
Will participants need to download software to participate in an online meeting?
Yes. And is easy and takes seconds. All participants will need to download the Screen Sharing software to participate in a meeting.
When you download the software, this allows you to view what the expert leader displays to the group on your computer screen.
How do I join my group on the day and time of group?
After you register, you will be emailed all the easy steps; emailed a link, dial in phone number, and access code.
When I call into a group, am I responsible for the long distance call?
Each participant dials the dial-in phone number (this will be a regular U.S. telephone number to join group emailed to you after registering). Depending on each user's location, this may be a long distance call, in which case their phone company may charge them according to their long distance plan. The call itself is free to users with nationwide, unlimited, or bundled long distance service. Because of the affordable -cost effectiveness of our recovery groups, our system does not pay for caller's long distance rates. Our U.S. access numbers may be domestic long distance calls for group participants, but many - if not all - participants will likely have free, bundled, or unlimited long distance as part of their calling plan.
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