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"Change occurs when one becomes what he/she is, not when he/she tries to become what he is not"
Addiction to Love - How is it Possible?
While there are some in the professional community that aren't sure that love addiction really exists, I would remind them that 20 to 30 years ago many professionals were cynical that sex addiction was real.
Love vs. Sex Addiction
There are components of love addiction attached to sex addiction, no doubt. In fact some love addicts do attend SLAA to help support recovery. Early in my recovery, as I sought support through my recovery from love addiction, I attended these groups. I did find good people who were supportive and were grateful for their support. But as I listened to many of their stories, I couldn't't relate. I couldn't't relate because I was not addicted to sex and many of the behaviors were distinctively different. Although many of the compulsion's and desires of seeking external validation was the same, as they are with all addictions, I never had a connection to that addiction.
But now let's gets back to addictions to relationships, people, romance, love. First off, love addiction is not really addiction to love. What exists in genuine love is real intimacy, congruence, flexibility, and doesn't't have a dependency component. Love addiction an addiction to a pseudo, or false love. To the love addict, it may feel and appear to have real love and intimacy, but in fact does not.
Love and Fantasy
Love is the addiction to the fantasy- an addiction to the denial of what the love addict holds on to very tight. The fantasy and denial is what creates the "high". It turns on the brain chemicals that make the love addict feel alive. Like any other addiction, the purpose of the addiction is to feel good, feel alive, feel worth, and ultimately, to escape the reality of life. This is done by using something external from the self (drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, work, and the list goes on).
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