Are You Addicted to Love? Love Addict Test

1. I repeatedly fall into hurtful, destructive relationships.   Yes __ No __
2. I typically fall in love, get crushes on, or obsess about unavailable/avoidant individuals.  Yes __ No __
3. I tend to rush into love relationships too quickly without getting to know my partner.  
   Yes __ No __
4. I get stuck in relationships that aren't going anywhere.   Yes __ No __
5. I tend to fall for partners who cannot or will not love me in return.  Yes __ No __
   
   
6. I let romantic fantasies take the place of real relationships.  Yes __ No __
7. I have a great fear of being alone.  Yes __ No __
8. I feel lonely and unhappy when I am not in a relationship (single).  Yes __ No __
9. I crave intensity in relationships while fearing true intimacy/little sharing of real substance.  
   Yes __ No __
10. When I love someone, I fear he/she will find someone better than me.  Yes __ No __
    
    
11. I panic at the thought of my partner not loving me, eventually 'abandoning' me.   Yes __ No __
12. I become so preoccupied with fulfilling my partner's expectations that I lose touch with my feelings. Yes __ No __
13. I often need constant approval and reassurance from my partner to feel secure and good about myself.  Yes __ No __
14. I tend to use a love relationship to help me feel alive, worthy, and valuable.  Yes __ No __
15. I tend to compromise my values and integrity to avoid being alone, left, or abandoned.  
    Yes __ No __
    
    
16. I seem to always fall for relationship partners who are Narcissistic or Grandiose ("It's all about him/or her").  Yes __ No __
17. I can often be demanding, suffocating, and smothering my partner in relationships.  Yes __ No __
18. I have difficulty letting go of a romantic relationship as I feel I cannot survive without him or her because it is too
    painful to end it, even if I know he/she is bad for me.   Yes __ No __
19. I tend to use fantasy in place of true love and intimacy.  Yes __ No __
20. I crave love, intimacy, and closeness but run from (sabotage) them at the same time.  Yes __ No __
    
    
21. My relationships feel like a roller coaster of highs & lows (mostly lows) with an anxiety-ridden push-pull dynamic.  Yes __ No __
22. I tend to equate being in love with having extreme chemistry, passion, or intensity.  Yes __ No __
23. I tolerate intolerable or unacceptable behaviors in relationships.  Yes __ No __
24. I tend to minimize or ignore obvious "red flags" of a potential relationship partner (i.e., addictions, unhealthy attitudes, past relationship patterns, destructive behaviors) and only see what I want to see in him/her.  Yes __ No __
25. I have difficulty loving myself and need constant validation from my partner to feel worthy.  Yes __ No __
    
    
26. I have difficulty setting appropriate boundaries in relationships.  Yes __ No __
27. I have trouble taking care of my own needs and placing my partner's needs over my own.  Yes __ No __
28. I tend to idealize my partner, put him/her on a pedestal, and see them as stronger or "better than" and me as weaker and "less than.”   
    Yes __ No __
29. Despite the evidence, I often tell myself my relationship will improve and my partner will eventually be like he or she was initially. 
     Yes __ No __
30. I tend to give too much and do too much for my partner while receiving less and less.  Yes __ No __
    
    
31. I often take full responsibility for problems in my relationships, or I hold my partner fully responsible for all of the issues in the
    relationship.   Yes __ No __
32. I often try to change, convince, or control my partner so they will fulfill my fantasy of what I want him/her to be.  Yes __ No __
33. I tend to give up or disregard personal goals, likes, values, and needs/wants while placing all my focus on my relationship.  Yes __ No __
34. During a breakup or divorce, I tend to experience intense love withdrawal symptoms (i.e., obsession, loneliness, craving ex, despair, depression, loss of identity, and the desperate need to reestablish contact with my ex-partner for relief).  Yes __ No __ 

If you think you may be a love addict, seeking help from a qualified therapist, counselor, or psychologist who understands the issue can guide you toward freedom. If you're still uncertain after answering these questions, learn more to understand love addiction.

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