Love Addiction Test

1. I repeatedly fall into hurtful, destructive relationships.   Yes __ No __
2. I typically fall in love, get crushes on, or obsess about unavailable/avoidant individuals.  Yes __ No __
3. I tend to rush into love relationships too quickly without truly getting to know my partner.  
   Yes __ No __
4. I get stuck in relationships that aren't going anywhere.   Yes __ No __
5. I tend to fall for partners who cannot or will not love me in return.  Yes __ No __
6. I let fantasies take the place of real relationships.  Yes __ No __
7. I have a great fear of being alone.  Yes __ No __
8. I feel lonely and unhappy when I am not in a relationship (single).  Yes __ No __
9. I crave intensity in relationships while fearing true intimacy/little sharing of real substance.  
   Yes __ No __
10. When I love someone, I fear he/she will find someone better than me.  Yes __ No __
11. I panic at the thought of my partner not loving me; eventually 'abandoning' me.   Yes __ No __
12. I become so preoccupied with fulfilling the expectations of my partner that I lose touch with my feelings. Yes __ No __
13. I often need constant approval and reassurance from my partner to feel secure and good about myself.  Yes __ No __
14. I tend to use a love relationship to help me feel alive, worthy, and valuable.  Yes __ No __
15. I tend to compromise my values and integrity to avoid being alone; left or abandoned.  
    Yes __ No __
16. I seem to always fall for relationship partners who are Narcissistic or Grandiose ("It's all about him/or her").  Yes __ No __
17. I can often be demanding; suffocating and smothering my partner in relationships.  Yes __ No __
18. I have difficulty letting go of a romantic relationship as I feel I cannot survive without him or her; because it is too
    painful to end it; even if I know he/she is bad for me.   Yes __ No __
19. I tend to use fantasy in place of true love and intimacy.  Yes __ No __
20. I crave love/intimacy/closeness but run from (sabotage) it at the same time.  Yes __ No __
21. My relationships feel like a roller coaster of highs & lows (mostly lows) with an anxiety-ridden push-pull dynamic.  Yes __ No __
22. I believe being in love means having extreme chemistry, passion, or intensity.  Yes __ No __
23. I tolerate intolerable or unacceptable behaviors in relationships.  Yes __ No __
24. I tend to minimize or ignore obvious "red flags" of a potential relationship partner (i.e., addictions, unhealthy attitudes, past relationship patterns, destructive behaviors) and only see what I want to see in him/her.  Yes __ No __
25. I have difficulty loving myself and need constant validation from my partner to feel worthy.  Yes __ No __
26. I have difficulty setting appropriate boundaries in relationships.  Yes __ No __
27. I have trouble taking care of my own needs and wants and place my partner's needs and wants, over my own.  Yes __ No __
28. I tend to idealize my partner; put him/her on a pedestal; and see them as stronger or "better than," and me as weaker and "less than.”   
    Yes __ No __
29. Despite the evidence, I often tell myself my relationship will get better; and that my partner will be like he or she was in the beginning. 
     Yes __ No __
30. I tend to give too much and do too much for my partner while receiving less and less.  Yes __ No __
31. I often take full responsibility for problems in my relationships, or I hold my partner fully responsible for all of the issues in the
    relationship.   Yes __ No __
32. I often try to change, convince, or control my partner so they will fulfill my fantasy of what I want him/her to be.  Yes __ No __
33. I tend to give up or disregard personal goals, likes, values, and needs/wants while placing all my focus on my relationship.  Yes __ No __
34. During a breakup or divorce, I tend to experience intense withdrawal symptoms (i.e., obsession, loneliness, despair, depression, loss of identity; and the desperate need to reestablish contact ex-partner for relief).  Yes __ No __
     

There are various pathways to receive Love addiction treatment. Seeking help from an experienced therapist, counselor, and psychologist who understands the problem can set you on the right path. If you can afford it or your medical insurance covers it, various Love Addiction Treatment centers exist in some US states and countries like the UK. A 12-step support group such as Love Addicts Anonymous can be very helpful for treatment. An experienced and qualified Relationship or Love Addiction Coach can be another very valuable option.