Obsessive Love is a type of love where intense infatuation and compulsive behaviors can cause pain and distress and sabotage romantic relationships.
Pathological Love Is Obsessive, Dangerous, & Extreme - And more common than you may think!
But it can go even beyond mere relational sabotage. It can have an extremely dangerous side to it, something I call Pathological Obsessive Love, where not only is it destructive, but so extreme and pathological that it results in some of the worst evil acts committed in the name of "love.”
A majority of obsessive relationships never lead to violence and/or murder by a relationship partner. Unfortunately, a small percentage of them do.
I believe most people who've experienced an obsession with a love interest understand that “love” (addictive love) can cause you to behave inappropriately, but violence or murder in the name of “love” is a whole different story.
The connection between pathological obsessive love and violence is the most disastrous and consequential side of love addiction. According to the Federal Bureau of Investigation crime reports, in 2011, over 10% of murders in the United States were committed by the victim’s lover (FBI 2011).
Yet, that small minority can add up to many thousands (perhaps tens of thousands) of lives destroyed or lost each year.
For most of us, it is, truly hard to conceive killing a person, let alone killing a loved one, such as a partner, spouse, or child.
Not a day goes by of a story about a pathological lover who murders their male or female lover out of dangerous passion, jealousy, and/or obsession— typically triggered by a real or threatened breakup or divorce. In many cases, the murder of a lover includes their children, relatives, or even friends.
The following is an example of pathological obsessive love (a brief piece of the story):
HEADLINE: Father kills wife, self, children at home:
A man shot to death his wife and 18-month-old twins and then killed himself Sunday after a bitter quarrel with his estranged wife, police said.
The lawyer, killed his children, Sofia and Danny, with a single shot each before taking his own life, police said…
Billick's wife, Joan Brown, 35, had called police hours earlier Sunday… saying her husband was threatening violence... when she told him she was leaving with the children.
This is just one example. But you can find countless stories such as this on the internet and in any given week, month, or year; in almost any country, city, or town.
